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You Don’t Know What You’ve Got Till It’s Gone – In a Good Way

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The discharge orders have come down and we’re just waiting for them to tell us we can go home.

Lyndan is dressed and ready to go.  He isn’t 100% but really, the only reason to stay was to have daily visits from physio and other therapies – we have a medication to help control his nausea and his sight and balance are advancing regularly.  He was just bored and worried wondering why he had to stay.

An idiosyncrasy of mine is taking an absorb amount of introspection to realize what emotions I am feeling.  I know I have them but usually it takes some effort to figure out what they are.  I am realizing, as I have been cleaning my room in the Ronald McDonald House, that I have been carrying a lot of worry and burden while being here.  I have felt like myself, but really, until now, I didn’t realize how heavy it was, now that it’s lifted.  I was telling myself that I was actually in some ways enjoying being absent from all responsibilities, but the truth was there was a lot of weight on my shoulders that I couldn’t feel until now.

Heading home, I am excited.  I am excited to be able to get back to my church, my neighbourhood, and giving myself away again.  I mentioned before how I actually felt selfish having everyone come around us in incredible ways, giving and supporting us in this time, especially because as a pastor I felt like it was my job to be helping, not be helped.  There’s a lesson in here somewhere, and I think it’s the same lesson I have been teaching everyone else about real community and relationships – a lesson that I perhaps had not yet taught to myself.

So, lesson learned – carrying the load of worry and care that I have been, I needed more help than I thought.

And now, to drive home…

The Heartbreak of Moving On

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I just wanted to share an excellent blog post about moving on.  I actually struggled with how to share this because so many good things are happening, I don’t want to dwell on those difficult moments that have been mixed in.  Our church plant is growing and people are getting baptized and maturing in their faith and it is great, but even in the short time we have been together there have already been people and families who have begun entering into community and then decided that what we are doing and the direction of ministry with us was not where they were ready for.  Some have emailed a goodbye note, some have simply disappeared.  The awkwardness and struggle of Debra I deeply relate to.

I pretty much agree with everything she said.  People move on, nothing is permanent in this life.  But if you are ever that person who is moving on, please share it in person, with honesty and transparency with those who care for you – for your sake and for theirs.  It is never easy, but it does bring closure that blesses God’s heart and leaves less scars.

Missional (Relational) Vs. Attractional

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A funny thing happened in the middle of my sermon yesterday.

I didn’t write this down but as I was talking about relationships being the heartbeat of the first church in the book of Acts and reinforcing that this must be a value for us as Grasslands Church, it struck me.

The debate about missional vs. attractional is a little artificial.  When we consider John 15:15, Jesus says “they will know you are my disciples by your love for one another” and think about what Peter said in 1 Peter 3:15, we are to be prepared to give an answer for the hope that is in us, it seems plain to me that to be relational as a church body IS attractional.  That to put the correct focus on creating a community that truly loves one another, that is self-sacrificing to the point where there are no needs amongst the brethren, a church like this is by its existence so revolutionary and counter-cultural that people not in it will deeply desire to join it just for what it is.  That our love for one another will draw people to Christ.

So there it is.  Relational or missional IS attractional.

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