My view on fatherhood is complex. All these different labels and situations come together like those lenses in an optometrist’s office, creating a unique focal point and outlook on the issues going on that face Dads. In part 1 I talked about the reality of me being a stay-at-home Dad, and why I am completely cool with it despite the many voices out there calling me lazy, calling me a shirker of my responsibilities, calling me a failure for not “bringing home the bacon”. Now, let me explain some things I hinted at, and why they figure into the picture.
2. Parenting Boys
On the one hand, I don’t have to worry about dramatics to the same level as many of my friends who have daughters. This might sound sexist, but it’s the honest truth. A few of my boys get dramatic, but the tears rarely flow for more than a second or two.
On the plus side, action movies, pirates, Star Wars, and all my favourite things I get to continue to love because I get to introduce the boys to them one by one. And that is awesome.
On the downside, I really wanted a princess. Mainly because after a certain point, boys stop cuddling their old man. That point is different for every family, but I do know that little girls NEVER stop cuddling their Dad. So I’ll miss that.
The challenge to parenting all boys though is the sheer amount of physical activity that is needed to be engaged to keep them all healthy (and keep me sane). The noise levels for general play are quite high and my tolerance for that has gone up over time. However, there are always those days when you have an illness or headache or something and you just… can’t … take… it… and for those days there are video games.
Being the father of boys means that I can focus on certain issues. I can focus on teaching them what it means to be a man, to grow into manhood, and to engage properly in those things that men engage in. Thankfully, there are lots of great ideas around the internets. One that I have been very impressed with is the website/media empire, The Art of Manliness. He makes Youtubevideos and blogs regularly on aspects of manliness that man, I wish I had been taught! Just a wealth of information and I appreciate it.
But that means you won’t see a lot of advice on raising girls on here. Sorry. You came to the wrong Daddy Blog.